On Emotion and Getting People To Stay Long Enough To Listen To What You Are Trying To Say

November 9, 2007

I’ve been meaning to write something like this for a while now, but have not been able to properly organize my thoughts. It started with the responses I garnered from my post about Feminism and Choice. I was told that it was potentially alienating, and that it was one of the worst things I could do if my intention was to recruit people to the movement. Don’t scare people and make them feel uncomfortable, I was told, don’t be so confronting. Once you make your point, you don’t have to make it for three more paragraphs, just slide into the night. Make your points in an objective and rational manner, otherwise you seem biased, and will push away people who “border on disagreeing with you”.

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Isn’t Feminism All About Choice Anyway?

October 30, 2007

It’s not a choice if it’s your only good option. Now repeat that as often as you need to in order to take that on board.

Too often we see discussions of how if feminism is all about choice, then why can’t women choose to wear makeup (full disclosure: I’m wearing make up RIGHT NOW), or choose to stay at home and rely on their husband for full financial support, or choose to diet and lose weight or choose, choose, choose, choose, choose to perform actions that validate the patriarchy.

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Joie’s Late Week Recipes: 1 Pan Meditteranean-ish Chicken With Built In Side Dish

October 27, 2007

I love cooking. I hate cleaning up. Judging from the state of the kitchen in my share house, this is a pretty common configuration. The solution to this of course is to cook something completely fantastic in one pan. That way even if you don’t clean it up it doesn’t add significantly to the growing pile starting to resemble the primordial ooze that brought forth life. Come to think of it, I did see something move in there yesterday. Whatever, it’s not my turn. Getting back to the point, here’s an impressive one-pan meal that you can feed 4 guests with. It would round out nicely with a side salad, but you don’t need a recipe for that now, do you? (Ok, maybe later though…)

Meanwhile, I present for your convenience:

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Friday Fun: Women are lousy workers who just wanna make babies!

October 26, 2007

Just some Friday fun, that is, if your fun consists of you banging your head against the table.

Justin Sanders, who guest-posts at Modite writes:

Feminism has destabilized society by undermining heterosexuality and the family. This perverse assault on gender difference is disguised as an act of “defense” of women’s’ and homosexuals’ “right” to be single and childless. Women have been duped into seeking “power” and “independence” (aloneness) through climbing the mirage of the corporate ladder.


The natural result of this union between the masculine and the feminine is the child – Heaven’s most precious gift. Without a child to care for, a woman often becomes frustrated, bitter and distracted. She often uses the “success” of her “career” (which is simply a glorified word for “job”) as a replacement for the void of the missing child. Motherhood changes a woman permanently. The job, which once seemed so important, quickly becomes secondary to the starry eyes of her loving child. I’ve seen far too many women recite feminists mantras only to discovery – in their late 30s – that all they really wanted was a warm baby to snuggle.

Because in Justin’s mind, it’s a crime to be single and childless – since, yknow, children are the gift from god and just all women get all so weepy when they see little baby booties!

But for some fun, here’s a song I’ve been listening to all morning.


Joie’s Late Week Recipes: 10 Minute Smoked Salmon Alfredo

September 1, 2007

This week’s dish addresses the age-old dilemma of ordering pasta in a restaurant. Restaurants make a killing off selling pasta. It costs them next to nothing, they can cook up the sauce in under 5 minutes and the noodles can be pre-cooked. For this reason, I just cannot justify paying more than ten dollars (or more than $5, really) for a pasta dish. Most home cooks have their signature red sauce. Afterall, it’s nothing more than seasoned canned tomatoes. Plus, most commercial, bottled tomato-based pasta sauces are really decent (and can easily be augmented for that personal touch). White sauces, however are much more elusive, or so they will have you believe. May I present, for your consideration:

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Why can’t those damn gays just be happy with what little rights they have?

August 27, 2007

Married To The Sea

Singapore is currently in the midst of a debate on whether we should repeal an antiquated law titled Section 377a of the Penal Code. The law which was passed by down the British colonial masters (we declared independence in 1963, for a sense of a timeline) makes criminals out of gays for merely having sex.

Yes, two consensual men who fuck each other in private are considered criminals in the eyes of the law. Can we be any more progressive?

In April early this year, Minister Mentor Lee assured the gay community that S337a would not be enforced by the police, but the law would not be repealed so that the government would not “upset their [the religious conservatives] sense of propriety and right and wrong.”

Since then, we’ve been barraged with the cries of homophobes, bigots and fundamentalists who fear that their world would stop spinning in its axis if we let gays have the rights of a full human being.

Some of their poorly formed arguments against the repeal of 377a were:
1) It is against the good of society. Soon, we’d be like those damn Europeans, and gays will be having sex with boys as young as 14.
2) Those damn gays will start flocking to our island! And we’d have to see them kiss in public!
3) Schools will soon teach my children how to be gay! And churches will have gay ministers!
4) Those gays throw kinky sex orgies which leads to AIDs! AIDs is baddd!

But these aren’t the people whose heads I want to smack – for now. At least these people are honest and upfront about wanting to deny gays their rights.

It’s those pseudo gay-sympathizers whom I have no patience for.
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Joie’s Late Week Recipes: Frugal Gourmet’s Tuna Cakes

August 23, 2007

This is the first in a series of Joie’s late week recipes. You wouldn’t know it from the rest of the posts on this site, but lisiepeasie and I meant for this blog to have a crafts and cooking slant (in addition to all the ranting and railing we do against all the world’s injustices – hope you’ve been enjoying so far). The first recipe I will be presenting for your consideration is borne out of a need for this student to eat cheaply. Quite apart from the price of the foods used when cooking at home, one of the key tenants of eating cheaply is being able to resist the urge to eat out. I wanted something fancier than instant noodles with leafy greens and egg. I wanted something more complex than fried rice. I also couldn’t bear to look at another can of soup. So I looked at what I had – a can of tuna (but I had had tuna salad so often over the last two weeks, besides, I was out of flatbread – or indeed, any bread), baby potatoes (roasting potatoes would take too long though, it was late and I was hungry), various condiments and past date yoghurt that was still good, but couldn’t be trusted to keep for much longer. Oh and eggs of course. You have to have eggs if one of your food groups is instant noodles.

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